Is Military a different breed?
Courtesy: Brigadier(Retired) Mastinder Singh, Sena Medal, and his Network.
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'White Lies', 'Greed', 'Dishonesty' and 'Corruption' are taking the toll. We must get our Spiritual Learning right, whichever vocation we are.
Appeal Credit: Sandeep Budhiraja, Sector 33, Noida.
Why is the media here so negative? Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit.
There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.
In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime..... Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology. Why this obsession with everything imported.
I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.
Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance. Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours.
YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke. The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?
Take a person on his way to Singapore . Give him a name - 'YOURS'. Give him a face - 'YOURS'. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity….. In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.
YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else'.YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?)'. I am so and so's son. 'Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand. Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU.
YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?
Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay , Mr. Tinaikar, had a point to make. 'Rich peoples' dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements'. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels?
In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan. 'Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.
We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms. We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity. This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public.
When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?
What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU(?).
When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.
Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system.
Our conscience is mortgaged to money.
This calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too…. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…...
'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY' .
Lets do what India needs from us.
Dr. Abdul Kalam
An ingenious example of speech and politics occurred recently in the United Nations Assembly that made the World Community smile.
A Representative from India began: 'Before beginning my talk I want to tell you something about Rishi Kashyap of Kashmir, after whom Kashmir is named. When he struck a rock and it brought forth water, he thought, 'What a good opportunity to have a bath.' He removed his clothes, put them aside on the rock and entered the water. When he got out and wanted to dress, his clothes had vanished……. A Pakistani had stolen them.'
The Pakistani Representative jumped up furiously and shouted, 'What are you talking about? The Pakistanis weren't there then.'
The Indian Representative smiled and said, 'And now that we have made that clear, I will begin my speech. 'And they say Kashmir belongs to them........ ......... ......... ......... .........
Brigadier (Retired) Sukhwindar Singh
http://www.defenceoffsetsindia.com/
(A Global Solution for Offsets)
Credit: Contributed by Sandeep Budhiraja, Sector 33, Noida.
In The Wisdom of Confucius (translated by Lin Yutang, London, 1958) there appears the following exchange:
Zigong asked Confucius “What would you say if all the people of a village like a person?” “That is not enough,” replied Confucius.
“What would you say if all the people of the village dislike a person?” “That is not enough,” replied Confucius.
“It is better when the good people of the village like him, and the bad people dislike him.”
This ancient wisdom (Confucius died in 479 BC) summarizes:
You cannot and should not try to please everyone. Make sure that the Right People Like You, and it will be expected That Others Will Not. That’s how the world works.
Sukhwindar
Listening is a powerful tool of communication. Listening and just hearing has great difference. All of us want to have a companion who is a good listener and most of us aim to be one as well. (Added by the Moderator: And of course, 'companionship in gatherings' are different. Sometimes individuals 'collectively' can have different Motives and Agenda because of their varied backgrounds and value system. To be addressed accordingly).
What kind of Listener We Are ? A deep careful listener, a bored listener, a selective listener, a defensive listener, an interrupting listener or an insensitive listener?
Here are simple tips to be a Good Listener:
Follow the Golden Rule: “Do unto others what you want others to do unto you.”
-Put yourself in position of the one who is speaking to you.
-Make an effort to listen to the person who is speaking by giving your full attention to the speaker.
-Focus your mind to what he is trying to say, and for the unspoken messages.
-Watch for the non-verbal communications like tone of voice, hand gestures, facial expressions and other body movements.
-Listen for the real meaning and not just for the literal words.
-Finish listening first before you begin to speak for you to be sure that you understand what is being said and think clearly how to react.
-Ask questions if you are not sure, to understand what the speaker is trying to convey. Good listening requires practice and patience.
If you hone this skill, you’ll appreciate life more.
Bagchi, Sector 33.
Moderator:
a. Who Talks 'first', and who 'listens' is the crux in any social / informal / formal system. There is always a 'pattern' in any communication. We have a well-established theory called Transactional Analysis, commonly known as TA to its adherents. It is an Integrative Approach to the theory of psychology and psychotherapy, and results in Parent-Adult-Child (PAC) Model. We behave like a Parent, Adult and Child in all our conversations all the time. When to take which Role marks success of the 'transaction'. This Approach is 'integrative' because it has elements of psychoanalytic, humanist and cognitive approaches. Pse Click :http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transactional_analysis to read the 'Transactional Analysis'.
b. You find individuals 'Talking with Compassion/Authority/Forcefully with their Life Experiences in the Backdrop' (Parent), 'Reasoned Talk put Across Diligently Supported by Strong Rationale w/o Favour or Bias (Adult), and 'Indiscriminate Shouting, Sub-Normal Behaviour, Advancing Personal Agenda' (Child). It happens all the time in our Homes/Offices/Other Places where more than one person converse with each other to 'transact' any business. Aim of any 'speak' should be to 'transact' a meaningful business, of course properly 'heard' in a gathering, and 'listened-to' in a 'serene environment'. Environments are important.
A Leader is to understand it all and 'lead' accordingly. And there is also a theory & practice, 'How to Control an Unruly & Misled Crowd/Gathering?
Thanks for reminding Me to get the PAC in focus. Would help Us all,but are all of Us equally 'concerned' !
Kindly help the MC in advocating this 'Thought'. We are trying our bit in various ways.
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Sukhwindar
Credit: Wikipedia
Your Own ease, Comfort and Safety come last, always and every time".
Can we translate the Indian Military Motto in our ‘day-to-day’ working, and ‘national life’?
'Sector Life' can enrich manifold if we keep the self-interest last. Let Us work for 'Sab Ka Bhala'. Everything should not start from Point A, and also finish in a closed-loop at Point A. Kindly don't see things from Your Angle only.
Sukhwindar

All of Us are leaders in our own right; some successful, some not-very-successful, some unsuccessful. We need to be cautious of what constitutes Leadership, and its ground indicators.
NexGen is highly trainable. We must help them imbibe leadership traits , and help develop as 'fearless' leaders in whatever profession they choose.
'A Good Leader is always a Good Follower'.
Sukhwindar
Credit: The TOI.
(These Responsibilities are Expansion or Addition to the Responsibilities in the Bye Laws)
“Fortitude in Crisis is the Mantra of Good Leadership”
General
RWA is essentially a ‘bridge’ between the ‘Residents of Sector 33’ and ‘Govt. & Other Agencies’ servicing the Sector.
In order to optimise delivery to the Residents, all the Residents and the Management Committee (MC) in particular, need to ensure ‘right’ match and interaction between the ‘Aspiration of the Residents’ and ‘Abilities of the Delivering Agencies’. This would optimise delivery and help in welfare of the Residents which is one of the Main Objectives of the RWA.
National Constraints, Environments, Local cultural and ethical Issues, etc, affect our day-today working & living. These need to be factored-in.
We are drawing facilities from the ‘Common User Systems’. These Systems are over-stretched. There is therefore no place for any specialised or enhanced expectations in short term, unless ‘we’ become part of the Planning System. So the need of Half Yearly / Yearly Plan(s) for the Sector.
It is expected that all the Residents and the MC Committee work in the spirit of ‘conscientious awareness’ devoid of their individual perspectives while dealing with various issues impacting the Sector.
It is in this backdrop that we all need to function and deliver to the Sector. We need to ‘optimise’ through persuasive leadership without creating ‘negative effect’ in the System; it does not help any one.
Responsibilities of Various MC Members
Security of the Sector ( Presently with President & General Secretary)
Security is the responsibility of each Resident. They are expected to sanitise their environments.
Due to resource constrains presently, RWA is not able to secure individual Blocks fully. Block Security would be the responsibility of the individual Blocks, till it is taken over by the RWA.
RWA would provide ‘outer cordon’ of Security which includes Security at the ‘Main Gate’ and ‘Sector 34 Side Gate’. All action will be taken by the MC to check / regulate traffic moving through the Sector, sometimes at a ‘minor inconvenience’ of the Residents.
Roving Guard would be deployed at night to patrol the Blocks. Residents to help the ‘RWA’ if this Guard does not visit their Block(s) at least thrice at night. He is to blow ‘whistle’ as he moves through the Block(s).
All important Police, Fire Brigade, and MC Members’ telephone numbers to be available at the manned Sector Gates.
Close liaison with Police Officials, especially Sector 34 Police Post.
Any other points considered important.
Generation of Funds (Vice President & his Team)
Vice President is responsible for generation of Funds for the RWA as per Para 20.2 read in conjunction with Para 8 of the Bye Laws.
Vice President would take all steps to enlarge Membership of the RWA.
Vice President could deploy all legal means for Generation of Funds for the RWA including use of the Community Centre for the purpose.
Treasurer, Jt Treasurer, General Secy, Secy , in this order, would help the Vice President to generate funds. Vice President is ‘free’ to utilise special expertise / contacts of any of the Members of the RWA for the purpose.
All funds generated needless to say, would be properly accounted for with the Treasurer.
Community Centre (Treasurer and Jt Treasurer)
Community Centre will function under the overall management of the Treasurer.
Guidelines laid by Noida and the RWA 33 Bye Laws would be followed. When in conflict, Noida Guidelines stay supreme.
Form for Booking the Community Centre will be standardised and approved by the MC. All ‘Terms and Conditions’ including penalties will be printed on the ‘Booking Form’, and signed by the Treasurer / Jt Treasurer and the Party Booking it. It is a valid contract.
All bookings will be for ‘lawful’ activities.
Dy Treasurer will be responsible for Bookings. All MC Members to co-ordinate with him/her for the purpose before any commitment to any one.
Community Centre will not be considered booked for the date unless the ‘Form’ and the ‘Cheque / Bank Draft’ in the name of the RWA, are received by the Jt Treasurer, and the date blocked in the Booking Register. Cash will not be accepted.
Bookings will be 180 days in advance of the event for the Members, and 90 days in advance for the Non-Members. In case of a tie in the booking date, the RWA Member, Sector 33 Resident, a Party from outside the Sector, in that order, gets the preference.
Security of the function(s) being held at the Centre will be that of the Party booking it.
Community Centre will levy Damages, Penalty for Playing Loud Speakers after 11.30 PM, Electricity, Cleaning charges, etc, as in vogue & appropriate from the Party.
Routine maintenance and upkeep of the Community Centre will be the responsibility of the Joint Treasurer primarily, supported by the Treasurer.
When not in use, rooms /hall of the Community Centre will be kept locked by the Caretaker.
No unlawful activities are permitted in the premises of the Community Center. The Caretaker to ensure this in support from the Treasurer and Jt Treasurer.
Members Power, Sanitary, Water, Sewerage, Horticulture, etc, in the MC
Power Drawal / Consumption, Sanitation, Water Discipline, Sewerage Choking as a Result of the Residents misusages, Horticulture are the responsibility of each Resident. They are expected to use the Systems with care.
Concerned MC Member(s) to liaise with Noida Staff for ‘optimal’ delivery to the Sector.
‘Sector’ difficulties would be taken-up collectively and not ‘Block-wise’.
Prepare a ‘Half-Yearly / Yearly Plan’ for the Sector for Your respective responsibility areas, both short term (6 months) and long term (12 months), discuss in the MC & General Body. Once approved pursue with Noida officials through the JE / Inspector upwards.
‘Escalate’ only when needed and with approval from the General Secretary and the President.
Keep RTI and PIL in focus. At times written communication is important especially with Departments where Officials are ‘indifferent’ to the ‘repeated ‘requests.
Routine trouble shooting as it occurs through the Noida Staff.
Keep visits to the Staff minimum. It disturbs their routine working. In our enthusiasm, one may also ‘rub’ them on the wrong side; spoils working relations.
Take help from the Residents that have been past MC Members, or have due ‘links’ in the Authority. ‘Self-Help’ is the best form.
Reach out to the Authority Officials with Your ‘Knowledge Power’, and provide consulting to them based on your experience if need be. They are all ‘reasonably well-groomed’ in their disciplines. Any other Approach will be ‘self-defeating’.
Keep ’80:20’ principle in view. Most of Us do not follow it.
Employ ‘scientific management and ‘persuasive leadership’ while tackling issues, before ‘punishing’ the System.
When in doubt, consult others, especially Your spouse. His/Her advice would be based on knowing You the best.
It is very important for the MC Members ‘to know what can be accomplished by chasing’, and ‘what can not be done’ due to existing systemic difficulties. Otherwise we would be frustrating all in the chain. Also consult any one knowledgeable on the subject in addn to your spouse.
Any other Points considered necessary.
Member Welfare
To plan events to get the Sector 33 Community Closer. Organize at least Holy, and Diwali functions.
Explore the possibility of organising Tambolas at least once a month to begin with, Cultural Events led by Young at least twice a year, any other Events that are not very costly and help in building Community feeling.
To organize events like Exhibitions, Conferences, Seminars, Workshops, etc, in coordination with Vice President to generate funds for the RWA through valid welfare activities.
Funds for the activities could be made available as per the Half Yearly/ Yearly plan(s) for the Welfare.
Lady Members
They are welcome to contribute to the well being of the Sector 33 Community in addition to specific responsibilities taken by them.
Could help when approached in cases of disputes between Residents of the Sector / domestic disputes / violence and other issues that generally plague our social system, especially for the female gender.
Bring sobriety in the MC and General Body Meetings, when needed.
Any other issues considered necessary for women and children.
President, RWA 33